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![]() ![]() a conversation with David Truman |
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Fear of being |
I grant you, many people find being with others difficult. Without a doubt, their experience matches their expectation. Fear of being depleted is the number one cause of exhaustion. Our fearful orientation CREATES unnecessary hardships, and DOUBLES the unavoidable ones. |
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Inner conflict about relating comes from |
David: It's quite simple. You feel that interacting with others is contrary to your own well-being. You think that in the social experience, you are being drained or diluted or scattered. That conviction arises from your presumption of SEPARATENESS. You don't think you're THERE -- where the people are; you think you're HERE, getting sucked out of yourself. So you conceive a need for solitude in which to gather yourself back together. You feel that taking time out to regain your center would better equip you to re-enter this trial. |
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For many people, the more they "get away from it all," the more disturbed they feel. |
We say we "need our space," and so we do something completely peaceful. Maybe we take a bubble bath, or read a book. That tranquility is supposed to allow us to recover from the stresses of our day. But watch what happens next. For many people, the more space they get, the more asocial, eccentric, low energy, depressed, and disturbed they become. The deterioration may be noticeable only in extreme cases, but it can happen even when people take their space in a relatively benign and unreactive way. |
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The more separate |
The ego is a self-concept of smallness. The ego tells us that who we are is small, separate, and vulnerable -- and we accept the idea. That's our first mistake. The smaller a thing is in this world, the more vulnerable it is. So if you BELIEVE you are one small separated being, you've suddenly made yourself maximally vulnerable. |
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Ego claims that social interaction is spiritually destabilizing. But it is the ego that is threatened by relationship. |
If we buy the ego's argument, we will seek to become "safe," "centered," or "invulnerable" by withdrawing. The ego tells you that participation in outward activities with other beings drags you off your spiritual center. But in reality, by interacting with others you may just be moving off your ego center. Social experience expands consciousness, but it threatens and disturbs the ego -- and makes the ego desperate to withdraw and regroup. |
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"What you call WITHOUT, I call WITHIN. I go without whenever I'm tired; then maybe I'm strong enough to stand another bout of being by myself." |
It really comes down to where the source of happiness is. Does it come from within? Or does it come from what we now call "without," but we don't understand? Being is EVERYWHERE. What you call WITHOUT, I call WITHIN. And I go to it whenever I'm tired, whenever my nerves are on edge; whenever I feel separated and difficult, I go to WITHOUT and it fixes me. And then maybe I'm strong enough to stand another bout of being by myself. |
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When I regroup, I go out to all the people -- that is my regrouping. I am completely happy to know that you are my salvation, and in fact, myself. It is not negative dependency, it is a relief. When I withdraw, I feel the pain of separation immediately. I don't have any further illusions about how separation feels, and I don't complicate it with a thought that it feels good, even when it doesn't feel good. Don't get me wrong -- I enjoy solitude, but not separation. Q: Does awareness like yours occur all at once or gradually? David: It could happen either way, but it doesn't matter. It only matters that it happens. It is the essential goal of all spiritual and psychological processes to turn out from a contracted condition of awareness into a larger awareness. This happens as the being surrenders into the expanded condition and becomes freely aware, freely attentive, and freely communicative. Awareness expands gradually throughout all evolution in general. And it happens much more rapidly once the person becomes willing to share this subtle experience of spiritual evolution with other people. Q: Wow, I never thought spiritual life had to do with other people. I've always considered it to be some kind of inner experience. |
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A relational, communicative, |
David: You are finally beginning to realize what expanded consciousness MEANS, Grasshopper! When you finally become willing to live an essentially relational, communicative, loving lifestyle with other people, you have solved the problem of feeling stuck, alienated, and unloved. And you are at the threshold of what is truly called spiritual life. |
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The path to freedom starts with disciplining the tendency to withdraw. |
The immediate thing that confronts us is what I call the relational condition -- other people in relation to ourselves. The path to freedom starts with disciplining the tendency to withdraw and to want to exclude ourselves from other people -- like someone at a dance who doesn't want to dance. We become aware of our larger self when our attention isn't concentrated on our own fears and what it all means to our little self. |
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Conventional spirituality seeks to escape the problems of life; true spirituality integrates with life at all levels. |
This is where the relatively esoteric spiritual process begins -- the part that most people don't get into. It isn't even known in the average "spiritual" group. Conventional spirituality is about trying to get out of the world, trying to get away from the problems of human life -- including the problems of loving. True spirituality fully integrates with life at all levels. |
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Loving is the real way |
Your expanded consciousness, your real attention and awareness, is Divine love. Divine love is a complete integration of the body into one gesture. In love, you are not only socially manifested as caring, but you are spiritually manifested as transcendental awareness. This is the real meaning of "being IN the world but not OF it." |
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It's every person's birthright to realize love and spirituality in every place, at all times -- with no dilemma. No one wants to feel that "my social relationships are an obstruction to my spirituality," or "my spirituality is an obstruction to my social relationships." That dilemma is resolved in the being who strives for greater integration. You WILL achieve it -- if you insist. by David Truman Please feel free to share copies of this article. |
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