"Rightness" vs Love

Dearest beloved little ones,

There is a matter of rightness which you always worry about. And you know what, My dear ones: the WAY in which you worry about rightness is ruining your life and your relationships.

BECAUSE, you compare yourself to your ideas of rightness constantly. Instead of simply loving, loving the ones around you, you are always thinking about whether or not you are "right." What you say is "right" may be true, technically, but it is a wrong idea of rightness to think that it is an outside standard to be comparing yourself to. When that becomes the case, your desire for rightness becomes like a mirror into which you gaze all day long, looking at your own reflection, not noticing reality, not seeing those around you truly. This is a trick of the ego, little ones. It is a trick of the ego. The ego is using your spirit's desire for rightness in order to bring you into self-centeredness. But self-centeredness cannot ever be the actual way.

TRUE rightness is the rightness which does not look at itself constantly that way. At least, not in a way in which you are comparing yourself to rightness constantly. True rightness can look in the mirror, but it can only do so with delight, not with a measure in hand. This is true rightness.

Also, My dear ones, your idea of rightness is destroying your relationships with others. Just as you are always comparing yourself to your idea of rightness, you are always comparing others to your idea of rightness, and this alienates you from them. Instead you should simply love people, love people for who they are. And if they are doing things that hurt themselves, that hurt others, that are not true to themselves, help them not to do that because you love people, not because of rightness.

Beloveds, I see you do this daily, I see you do this all the time. I see you do this to each other, the way you look at each other. You deeply love the principles of spirit. But My dear ones, it is far more important that you love one another. I am not saying that you do not love one another. You truly do. But you still walk around with a measure in your minds, measuring your friends by their rightness, rather than SEEING the actual person. You see, a person is not whether or not they are being right. No. This does not make a person. And here is something more: A person is not whether or not they are being themselves right now. No. This is not who they are. If this is what you are looking for when you look at them, you will miss them, because they are not THERE. Where they are is where they are. Who they are is who they are. You cannot find that with any measure, with any standard. And indeed, it is abusive to treat people that way.

This is not to say that people should not be upset when their loved ones do something wrong, or do not be themselves. Upset is fine, natural. But there are different types of upset, and different reasons for being upset. The kind of upset which is caused by walking around with the "rightness" measure in your mind is reactive. It does not see the person. The kind of upset that is caused because you SEE the person, is personal. Personal upset is the only kind that I can approve of.

Therefore My dear ones, release the rightness measurement tool that you carry around in your head. Set yourselves free from it, and set your friends free from it, because it is oppressive. I don't care if your friends, or you, do the same thing wrong over and over again, no human being should be submitted to the rightness measurement tool treatment, which human minds have such a strong tendency to dish out. Do not do it. This is UNLOVE. It is far far from right. Know that, always, My dear ones.

And know that I DO NOT look at you this way. I do not carry a rightness measurement tool with Me. This is not My way. I SEE YOU. I see you always, and I love you. This is My way. Of course I am aware of your ups and downs; I am aware of your tendencies. And I try to wean you from the egoic tendencies. But that is different. That is an awareness that is a Mother's love. A Mother who watches and cares for Her children, because She loves them.

This, My dear ones, is how you should love. No mother, who is true to her heart, would ever look at her child with a rightness measurement tool in her heart. Nor would a father, really; not in the sense that I am talking about. Although a father is aware of his child's rightness, and tunes for it, a father who is true to his heart does not SEE his children that way. He SEES his actual children.

I want you to meditate on this, dear ones, and keep it in mind all day long, every day. This is important. Do not forget this when you finish reading this letter. This is important, to you and your friends. Think on it, feel it. This is important.

I love you.

God