DISPELLING MYTHS ABOUT UNSELFISHNESS

Dear Beloveds,

I'm writing to you today to dispel certain myths.

My dear ones, you have all heard that you should live unselfishly, love unselfishly. You know this truth, My dear ones.

But to live unselfishly does not mean that you should not take care of yourselves at all. My dear ones, you are universe citizens, children of God, and part of your responsibility while you are here on a mission of love is to make sure you are alive and well.

Your ideas about what it means to take care of yourselves are mostly wrong. For example, it is not taking proper care of yourselves to become overly concerned with your well-being, to the detriment of your psychological health, and to put your well-being over others' well-being, to their detriment, and to the detriment of your relationships and your feeling of self-esteem. It is not taking care of yourselves to place survival over all things. This is very bad for your mental health. Terribly bad. This puts you in a position where you become like an animal (in fact, something far more base than an animal), when in fact you are a human being, with greater sensitivities than that. This is not good for you, My dear ones.

Furthermore, to take care of yourselves does not mean that you cannot depend on Me. Although it is true that I do not replace personal responsibility in your lives, you can depend on Me for many things.

My dear ones, to live unselfishly does not mean to put others first. No, that is not true. It does not work that way. If you are too committed to putting others first, then in your mind you make yourself less than others, and separate from others. This is not the best thing for the whole.

To live unselfishly means to recognize that you are part of a wholeness, a big beautiful wholeness, a wholeness that needs you. To live unselfishly means to surrender to the needs of the whole, the needs of all, knowing that by doing so you are also taking care of your own needs, because you are part of the whole. You are not a small and unimportant entity that is separate from the whole, but should serve the whole unselfishly. No. This is not the way it is. You are part of the whole that you are serving. Therefore, do as the hands and feet would do. The feet carry the body. Yes indeed, but when the feet are sore it is time to sit down, so that they can rest and serve the body again tomorrow. It is part of the feet's service to the body that they rest when it's time to rest, because the feet are PART of the body, a much-needed part.

You see. Serve in the spirit of knowing that you are part of the wholeness; that is unselfishness. Unselfishness has nothing to do with the self. Not even as much as that the self should be put last. That is not unselfishness. Unselfishness means to be whole-centric, rather than self-centric.

There, My dear ones. Know these things and be happy.

Right now you are oscillating between accepting the idea that unselfishness means you should put yourselves last, and then rebelling against that, with the idea that you need to take care of yourselves. When you do that rebellion, you do it as if it were you OR others, and that you have to balance out those needs. That is not true. It is you and others AS A WHOLE. Therefore, you do not need to go back and forth, and you do not need to balance two separate things. You simply need to do what is right and most needed. And sometimes that means taking care of yourselves.

Yes, My dear ones, as I said in the beginning, as universe citizens it is part of your responsibility to take care of yourselves. So now, when you take care of yourselves, do it in that spirit, with that knowing, and do not feel conflicted. And when you give, do it knowing that you are part of the whole, and that you are an important part, and do not feel conflicted.

Please remember these things, and when you hear myths passed along about both what it means to take care of yourselves, and what it means to be unselfish, let people know the truth: that these things are not in conflict. Wholeness is. In doing so you will be helping this humanity greatly, because these myths have caused much pain and conflict in the entire world.

I love you all.